Monday, March 15, 2010

How we met

Since my Anniversary is coming up, I thought I would write about how we first met.Bear with me if I tend to go on a ramble....it is a story worth reading.

I met my husband on the internet in October 2000. My sister had set me up with a yahoo account and this was my first time using a computer. She showed me how to access the chat rooms, you know before they were full of bots and porn. I enjoyed chatting with random people as it helped to pass the time before my son(who was then 2 months old) needed another feeding. And face it, as a single girl with a new baby, it was great company.
I was in a Single Parents chat room, like I had been so many other times when I got an IM. I thought he was just someone looking to chat so I checked out his profile and thought wow this guy is pretty hot..so I said hello. We started chatting, he told me he liked my profile pic. We talked about random things. He was a single dad with 3 children. I was a single mom with a new baby. We talked about him being in the Navy. Talked about his separation and my break-up. Over the next few days we chatted more. And over the next few months I felt we were getting really close. He called me and we talked on the phone. It was great to hear his voice. We would chat with web cams. Dorks that we were. I saw his kids playing and he saw my son. And the more we talked the more I wanted to talk. He understood my situation and was a very great friend to me. I let him know in January of 2001 that I was going to get back to Florida with my son's father, because I felt like I "owed" my son that chance. He ended up moving to Miami! We were just about 3 hours away from each other. Oh how many times I e-mailed him and dialed his number only to hang up before the first ring. To make a long story short, it didn't work out and I walked away plus one more child. Yep I got pregnant again when my son was 8 months old. Things went from bad to worse and I moved back home with my parents so I would have some support. He didn't know I moved back home. I also didn't know he was leaving Miami to move back to Maryland so he was near his kids. He just happened to call my parents house and I picked up the phone. It was so comforting to hear HIS voice on that phone! We talked for hours about what he has been up to and what I have been up to. Just a much needed catch up. I was petrified to tell him I was pregnant, because I thought ok he knows about my son and accepted that but surely he will run the other way when I tell him this. I was wrong,he didn't he embraced it and wanted to be a part of it all. But me being the stubborn person that I am, I kept him at arms length for the next couple of months. We kept in touch but sort of went our own ways. I wish I could say my path was pleasant, but it wasn't. We finally found our way back to each other again. I sat by the computer checking for an e-mail from him. Hoping to see my chat screen pop up. Before long I was consumed by him.
He decided to come to my house in Kentucky with his son to stay with me for a while. I of course was ecstatic but worried too. What if he doesn't like me when he gets here. Everything is perfect via the computer. Please God let this work out in your plan. There was a reason we kept coming back to each other. So on September 16, 2002...I laid eyes on the love of my life for the first time, in person that is. All the fears and doubts that I had were instantly erased and it was as if we had just always been together. There was no awkward feelings, just bliss. We thoroughly enjoyed every minute we had together. I knew that day I would love him forever. When time came for him to leave, I thought my heart would literally break. The thought of him coming back to Maryland without me made me more than sad. Just thinking of him leaving made me feel like I couldn't breathe. He asked me to come with him....so I did. I loaded up my 2 year old son and 8 month old daughter and I went and stayed a week. When the week was over, I knew I had to go home. However I wasn't sure how long I was going to be able to tolerate being separated from him.
You know how people tell you that when you meet that special someone you will know...well I just knew. So in October of 2002, I left Kentucky for Maryland and this is where I have been since. We were engaged on March 18, 2003 and married the following year on March 18th! I know that my husband is without a shadow of a doubt, my one and only! My soul mate! We have quite the journey from the beginning until now, but God always has a plan, and I am eternally grateful that WE were a part of HIS plan.

I am happy to be celebrating 6 years of marriage and looking forward to the next 60!!

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